My soon-to-be ex recently became fanatical about tattoos and has collected over a dozen large ones in less than two years. She’s always been overbearing, but this is too much. That slowly tapered off as she grew, and now we almost don’t touch at all. It is my job!” This obviously infuriates her. Obviously, my wife and I know that this is extremely unhealthy and unhygienic. slate.com - Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. Overall, he is a bright and happy kid. Submit it here or post it in the Slate Parenting Facebook group. Dear Care and Feeding, I feel like I am in crisis. I have been seeing a counselor since last September about it, and she has helped me sort through my feelings and look at my options. Dear Care and Feeding, I have a 28-year-old daughter who has an autoimmune condition that makes it difficult for her to walk (if she’s having a flare-up). Have a question for Care and Feeding? 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My husband and I have no physical and little emotional intimacy, though we do have a low-conflict household. Up until around age 7 or 8 we were pretty physically demonstrative and would hug and kiss, and I would pick her up and carry her around. When I asked her, she just said that all the kids in her class were annoying. I have a wonderful 22-month-old son, and as I lie with him at bedtime while he falls asleep I tell him the usual things: I love you, I’m right here. Dear Care and Feeding, My husband and I are in our mid-30s and happily child-free. Dear Care and Feeding, My daughter is 12 years old and going through a phase where she likes to (sorry, this is gross) pick her scabs. slate.com - Care and Feeding is Slate’s parenting advice column. My husband of three years and I moved this year across the country for work, and my mom has not stopped holding it against us. Have a question for Care and Feeding? Parenting advice on reckless MILs, religious disagreements, and toy shaming. I have always dreamed of having a large family, and we even agreed on having more kids early on, but due to various circumstances (mostly financial), after our first 2 children, he opted to have a somewhat permanent procedure done. I really miss that connection. Dear Care and Feeding: We used to be affectionate with each other all the time. My son is a normal, active little boy, and it’s hard for him to sit through a whole dinner, so we let him explore the restaurant a little. Dear Care and Feeding, I have three young kids, two of them young elementary age. Dear Care and Feeding, I have three elementary-age children and am currently going through an amicable divorce. While I was having dinner the other night with my mother-in-law, she asked point-blank if she’s gay. She has been accepted at four universities and has it narrowed down to two. One is a state college 30 minutes away. 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